Fear of the Unknown
You walk into work, coffee in hand, and settle into your chair. As always, you log in to your email, scanning the inbox for any immediate calls to action.
Your eyes land on something shocking: the company is being reorganized. Your manager and half of your team will be transitioning out of your department. The email assures you that “specialists” will be in touch in the coming weeks to discuss reassignment and new roles.
Your heart rate quickens, and you feel your chest tighten. “Will I be okay?” is the only thought on your mind.
Expect the Unexpected
To live is to be confronted with uncertainty. It is something we’ve all experienced. Yet, for many of us, fear of the unknown is a source of considerable anxiety and stress.
Surveys conducted by the American Psychological Association indicate that uncertainty about finances and health are two of the biggest sources of stress for Americans. The APA reports that a third of Americans have anxiety about the perceived instability of the economy, and two-thirds of Americans report worrying about the potential impact of changes to health policy.
Fear of the unknown can come in many forms—loss of a family member, changing relationship dynamics, an unexpected diagnosis, or feeling unprepared for a new role like parenthood.
The unknown can be scary and full of potential threats. To manage these feelings, the brain begins to fill in the blanks where gaps in information exist. However, these gaps in information emanate from the emotional part of our brain, the limbic system, rather than the rational parts of our brain. Our ability to reason gives way to our survival instincts.
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How to Cope with Fear of the Unknown
- Focus attention on the present moment – When dealing with the unknown, it can be easy to fall into the “what if” cycle; What if I get fired, what if my wife leaves me, what if I fail? Worrying about the future or ruminating on the past, when you can change neither, can exacerbate anxiety. Attention to what’s happening right now can help refocus the mind and remind the brain it’s responding to anxious thoughts, rather than reality.
- Use Distraction – The spiral of worry tends to feed itself – the more we think about our worries, the more we worry. Breaking the cycle can help. Go for a walk, watch a movie, do some deep breathing, or pick up a book. Redirecting the thoughts can help calm the nervous system.
- Focus on the things you can control – Fear of the unknown naturally makes us want to exert control. Often, we focus our efforts on things we can’t control: others’ behavior, the stock market, medical conditions, traffic, and our feelings. Focusing on what you can control can help you manage your fear of the unknown. For example, you have control over your behavior, attending medical appointments, your budget, and how you react to your feelings. Constructing routines can also help you feel like there is a regularity to life that can help you feel safer and make the unknown less It is intimidating.
- Try taking a break from the news – The media’s tendency to lead with stories of violence, destruction, and devastation can perpetuate the feeling that the world is chaotic and unsafe. Try listening to an audiobook or podcast during the morning commute.
- Be gentle with yourself – You may view others as more resilient in the face of uncertainty, and feel inadequate about your ability to “roll with the punches.” The fact is that we all handle the unknown differently—and that’s ok! It’s important, to be honest with yourself and clear about what you need to effectively cope with the stress of the unknown. Consider communicating your feelings to trusted family and friends, who can help remind you of your strengths and abilities.
If fear of uncertainty begins to impact your quality of life, please contact us to find out how we can help.
